I agree Adam, children are expensive (ludicrously so if you go for non-state education) and require a huge commitment to develop confidence, balanced attitudes and enough understanding of what the world actually is, how it works and where it might go, that they can make unbiased decisions and embark on their own lives.London has seen a significant rise in the age of first time parents, driven by an equal rise in the concerns and uncertainties you so accurately depict. Some, like myself, find luck riding on their shoulder for long enough to be comfortable going for a maximum commitment quite early, others less so.By and large though, all parents want the best for their children and will overcome countless difficulties and obstacles to get there. Lack of home space is a problem that weekend football, toddler-ballet, cubs & guides, Watermans, activity parties and countless other activities can ease. Just go to Kew Park Rangers on a Sunday morning and you’ll see a couple of hundred boys & girls from very young upwards running, laughing, sometimes cursing and fighting, competing and thoroughly enjoying themselves. Backgrounds, homes, schools, nationality, race and religion don’t feature in who your child makes friends with, which means it equally doesn’t feature in who the frozen parent shivering near the touchline chats with to make arrangements for the kids to meet up outside of football, and long may that continue!I sympathise with the coffee shop problem you mention, but would point out that any parent with 4 children is going to be living at the edge of sanity most of the time and probably needs that coffee! Interestingly, when my kids were very young we were routinely assigned seats at the back of planes, regardless of the ticket we’d bought because, ‘it’s policy so they don’t disturb our executive fliers’. I hated that attitude and hate it in restaurants and hotels.I think today’s parents have a step-up in things they have to deal and cope with over their own parents’ generation, meaning attitudes and behaviours have evolved. The world needs children and thanks to Brexit, Britain now needs quite a few more.
Lorne Gifford ● 2704d