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"We as a country ain't got much more room for any more people"What a load a nonsense.Only 6% of the UK is built on. (Although in Hounslow it is close to 70%). https://www.sheffield.ac.uk/faculty/social-sciences/news/new-uk-land-atlas-reveals-six-percent-uk-built-on-1.744121Also there seems to be some biggoted view that large families a) are soley a working class / benefit claiming phenomenon and b) people over the course of their life are net beneficiaries of income redistribution not contributors.A worker earning £18k a year will contribute around £2,500 a year in income taxes and national insurance (not to mention VAT and other excise duties). Over a working lifetime the overwhelming majority of people will put in more than they take out.(Side point: migrant workers who come over here to work don't cost money for the UK to educate and if they go back home to their families we don't need to care for them in their old age either.)The biggest population issue at the moment is baby-boomers retiring in their mid 60s and can expect to live between 10 and 30 years after that on a triple locked pension - which will be A LOT more than one gets in child benefit and their healthcare costs will be much much greater too.According to the ONS gross household incomes for the retired nearly tripled between 1977 and 2016, but only doubled for working households (Source, Guardian August 2017).The gall that someone who is looking to the state for a fixed income, care for their ever increasing health conditions and even a free bus-pass can claim that young families are living "on the house", is really astonishing.If we're going to talk about population control why not discuss forced euthanasia at 80+? I imagine this forum would have very strong feelings about that.

Christina Hill ● 2703d

I agree Adam, children are expensive (ludicrously so if you go for non-state education) and require a huge commitment to develop confidence, balanced attitudes and enough understanding of what the world actually is, how it works and where it might go, that they can make unbiased decisions and embark on their own lives.London has seen a significant rise in the age of first time parents, driven by an equal rise in the concerns and uncertainties you so accurately depict. Some, like myself, find luck riding on their shoulder for long enough to be comfortable going for a maximum commitment quite early, others less so.By and large though, all parents want the best for their children and will overcome countless difficulties and obstacles to get there.  Lack of home space is a problem that weekend football, toddler-ballet, cubs & guides, Watermans, activity parties and countless other activities can ease.  Just go to Kew Park Rangers on a Sunday morning and you’ll see a couple of hundred boys & girls from very young upwards running, laughing, sometimes cursing and fighting, competing and thoroughly enjoying themselves.  Backgrounds, homes, schools, nationality, race and religion don’t feature in who your child makes friends with, which means it equally doesn’t feature in who the frozen parent shivering near the touchline chats with to make arrangements for the kids to meet up outside of football, and long may that continue!I sympathise with the coffee shop problem you mention, but would point out that any parent with 4 children is going to be living at the edge of sanity most of the time and probably needs that coffee!  Interestingly, when my kids were very young we were routinely assigned seats at the back of planes, regardless of the ticket we’d bought because, ‘it’s policy so they don’t disturb our executive fliers’.  I hated that attitude and hate it in restaurants and hotels.I think today’s parents have a step-up in things they have to deal and cope with over their own parents’ generation, meaning attitudes and behaviours have evolved.  The world needs children and thanks to Brexit, Britain now needs quite a few more.

Lorne Gifford ● 2704d

Personally I don't associate having a large family with the working classes, I've never thought of it that way.  Many of my friends and acquaintances have large families, and they come from all 'classes' of society.I know that some people perceive me as being in some way anti-child, which simply isn't true, but generally speaking looking back to my own childhood I very much knew my place.  Nowadays I generally think that people think it's fine to take their 4 kids out to a coffee shop and if their kids scream and yell the place down it's in some way highly amusing, whereas when I was a kid if I stepped slightly out of line in a public place my Dad would drag me out and stick me in the car.  And I didn't misbehave again and I was genuinely scared (in a healthy way I'd add) of my Dad.Saying that I was very surprised recently when my parents admitted they would have liked another child, as I'd always joked that my parents had me and found it such a nightmare that they'd always stuck with dogs after that !.I can see the arguments in favour of each to their own (something I'm usually a strong believer in), and the benefits of having kids to be comfortable in your retirement (although then again children cost alot of money in your middle age).I don't live in the same fantasy world that my other half lives in which is that she only wants kids when we have the big house with the big garden outside London, but equally I do think many parts of London are hardly an ideal environment for a child to grow up in, e.g your new 2 bed flat with its only amenity space being a balcony 10 storeys up, roads all clogged up etc.

Adam Beamish ● 2704d

As a country transitions from rural to non-rural and then from low to generally middle income, its population growth follows a standard model.  Different counties transition at different times so overall world population will increase until all have been through the process.  Final number is predicted as 11 billion (or thereabouts as I’m writing from memory rather than number checking).Early transition countries have reached their stable number level and are now in the middle of the transition from small numbers of old people to much larger numbers.  This means the smaller proportion of the population that is actually working has to pay substantially larger associated costs.  An older person will claim they paid their ‘stamp’ and therefore are entitled to it, and being a moral and just society, our governments quite naturally honour those promises.The best way of softening the increasing burden on working people is to artificially increase your working population by importing large numbers of people at an age when they can be productive workers and who handily have a tendency to disappear back where they came from when they’ve made enough.  Ideal really, no education costs and similarly low costs when they’re old.  They’re also sufficiently motivated that they’re willing to move country to make money.But then some idiot country decided to stop immigration because ‘the country is full and they’re taking my benefits’ and nicely put a kibosh on the whole scheme.So, I think a large family is far from socially irresponsible, and China’s 1-child policy (which was recently cancelled) may well change to a 3-child policy in due course.I also think any talk about working class families being anything other than completely equal and justified in having as many children as they like is horrendous.  Sure, you can pull off a few examples to make any point you like, but that’s from a very small minority. The country needs children if you want to be comfortable in your retirement.

Lorne Gifford ● 2704d